I wonder how feminists will react to this
Probably ignore it then go back to making male tears mugs and gifs
Actually this is a very common idea among feminists
It’s something feminists have been talking about for years it’s called toxic masculinity and it’s one of the common threads among the topic of ‘Patriarchy hurts men too’. If fact the first time I read about toxic masculinity was on a feminist blog.
If you actually read things feminists talk about instead of straw manning them you might know this but OH WELL
THIS IS SO COMMON FOR FEMINISTS. My entire focus in my research is how the ideal of the good provider is mismatched with the reality of the economy as well as the effects of losing a job on masculine identity
ftr it’s actually not strawmanning if it’s something that happens.
I think the point the user above was trying to make is, it is (forgive the generalisation) females who mock men who display emotion and see them as weak and inferior. I don’t see how you can turn it around and say “the patriarchy” as if to imply it is males hurting other males. Which, it could be at times… but I put it to you that men care less about what other men think of them than they do about being rejected by the female gender en masse as too weak & emotional to be a suitable mate for not being the stereotypical “strong silent type”.
inb4 “no one owes you sex” straw man response. I am saying they might want to some day be a husband and father, not someone’s one night stand. Which again, no one owes them that. They have a right to feel that they’re not worthless, weak and unworthy of it though.
Though I think pointing the finger at a patriarchal power structure for the inability of men to express their feelings in a safe space is not a way of saying that it’s men who ridicule other men (although that certainly does happen) but rather a way of saying that whether men or women do it it’s a symptom of a societal norm created and perpetuated by that power structure, there are some interesting thoughts here to grapple with. The defining and policing of masculinity in a repressive way by both men and women has serious deleterious effects, not the least of which is the suicide rate that Thomas talks about in the above photo set, and the participation of women in that policing shouldn’t be ignored or glossed over, particularly because it is so impactful. I think actually second wave feminism — which is the feminism that I was raised with, and why I would call myself a second wave feminist — tended to have a better grasp of and approach to this issue. Aside from Naomi Wolf, I don’t find the approach of much of third wave feminism (especially US third wave feminism and especially radfem offshoots thereof) to be particularly constructive or realistic in these matters.
whats the meaning of life? son, its those little tiny pumpkins. the ones that are mad small. you know the ones i mean.
Saying that “no-one will love you before you love yourself” is bullshit and paints depressed/ mentally ill people as unlovable for having self esteem issues.
It is totally possible to love someone who doesn’t love themselves and actually it can really help them. What ISN’T helpful is treating them like crap because of maladaptive thinking processes that they can’t even help.
treat other ladies the way Leslie Knope treats Ann Perkins
you dont just play the sims. you go on a sims binge for three days straight then put the game down for 5 months
I remember when that “before” picture was taken. I was getting ready for my senior photo’s. I felt so uncomfortable in my own skin. I never felt ugly, but I never felt like “me”. The “after” photo, me on my honeymoon. First time in my life wearing a bikini. Hard work and dedication. I’m not embarrassed when I look back. I wouldn’t be who I am today without being who I was before. Before: 256 pounds
#funeralformyfat #beforandafter #weightloss
I’ve come a long way in 10 months! Over 15 pounds lost and a whole new outlook on exercise and healthy eating :)